On one of my favourite television shows, two characters were taking a road trip, and the tire blew. They got out of the car, and the young man said “Well, that happened.” His girlfriend queried this -“Is that all you’ve got to say?”
I like his attitude. There are many, many things in our life that are beyond our control. We have no control over other people, the weather, the bus timetable. It’s an acceptance of things the way they are – that doesn’t mean that you don’t have to change it if you aren’t happy with it, but it is the path of least suffering.
Those three words also state that whatever happened no longer exists – it is in the past, and the past is ungraspable. So is the future. We only have the now. Let’s get on with it.
I could rant and rail about other people’s behaviour and actions. Or I could get on with living my own life the best that I can. I can use the people and situations around me as inspiration to be the best person I can be at this point in time. I can also release any notion of control, for it is a fallacy at best.
Yes, certain events in human history are exceptionally horrid – it’s hard to say those three words about things like the holocaust, for example. It’s not letting go of the responsibility of our actions; it’s more about getting on with making things better instead of dwelling in our heads with our emotions and not really achieving anything. If a loved one dies, these three words aren’t particularly comforting. But it can give us a context, where we can feel the emotion at the time, and then work to make the world a better place in the precious time that we have left.
The next time something happens that has the ability to upset me, this is what I’m going to say. “Well, that happened”.