Relationship and worship

Within any relationship there is a give and take, an exchange of energy that flows, spiralling in and out and around, up and down and out and through. Within some practices of paganism, and dependent upon the individual, there can be too much one-sidedness in their relationship with deity, the spirits of place, the ancestors, etc. Often this is the individual asking or petitioning other powers all the time, or simply taking without giving anything in return. Sometimes it is the other way around, where a devotee gives and gives but is reluctant to ask for anything in return. I tend to fall into this latter category all too often.

My life, my rituals, my energy is utterly devoted to the land, the gods and the ancestors. They are my inspiration, they are my connection to the awen. I do not know what I would do now without them. As such, I let them know that they are honoured with daily prayers and devotions, in ritual work and in secular work. Their inspiration sings deep within my soul, feeding my own creativity and actions.

In ritual especially, I find it difficult to ask for anything. I am aware that so many people in our modern society, and indeed within paganism itself, take and take without giving anything in return. I am paranoid that I will fall into that category; that I should I ask for anything I will be lumping myself in with those who take advantage of the beautiful energy of a place, or who bother their gods, or who work magic without forethought.

I know that it is silly, even ridiculous to think this sometimes. However, I think that it also keeps me in check, keeps my ego in check, and allows me to remember my place within the web. I am a part of the tapestry, not separate, and therefore everything that I do affects the whole. Yet I can be so afraid sometimes to move some threads, to take some energy that lies within their warp and weft that perhaps my own colour fades, or becomes too thin. Reciprocity works both ways.

I am uncomfortable asking for things in ritual or in prayer. Why should this be? In my relationship with my partner, I am not afraid to ask for the things I need, for I know that good communication is key to any relationship. I need to understand, to really see and feel this truth in my relationship to the land, the ancestors and the deities as well.

Perhaps it is because they are so much bigger than I am – I am but a drop in the ocean. Yet I am still part of the ocean, whose power lies in its collective drops of water, singing and blending with the songs of wind and rain and sun. I can call upon that power for I am that power, and that power is me. I am a leaf on a tree and the tree itself – there is no separation. My gods live within me as much as they exist without. Separation is nothing but illusion.

Perhaps this is what some pagans have an aversion to when they consider the term “worship”. Taken from the Old English weorthscipe, it is the value of something – what it is worth to the individual. Weorth – worth, and scipe – condition. Worship is not bowing and grovelling before the gods, as some may perceive it to be – it is judging the worth of something in order to be able to fully relate to it. I hold my gods, the land and the ancestors in high esteem and therefore they are worthy of my attention. What I need to realise is that perhaps I too am worthy of their attention.

I’m working on it…

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4 thoughts on “Relationship and worship

  1. A couple of things spring to mind here. First, it appears to me that this reluctance on your behalf to ask is tied to the potential consequences to any and all requests (instinct suggests emotional consequences being very strongly felt / feared). You may only ask for one thing in your life and not get it, you can ask for thousands of things and not get any of them. Is there any perceived “right” to either approach? Well, I can only speak from my own experiences here and those have informed me that it is all about the act of communications and not actually the quantity (something I was informed doesn’t actually bother them that much, because you may ask but that doesn’t mean you will get) and the more you communicate, the better the connections strengthen. Believe me, I have asked some incredibly stupid things sometimes but I have never been made to feel that it was a stupid thing to say. The messages I have received tell me that the communications are used to best determine where “I am” at that time. which is beneficail to both sides.

  2. Our relationships all begin with reciprocity and respect. We see in the other a being worthy of respect and worthy of putting their goals and needs higher in importance to us than we did before we entered into the relationship. In healthy relationships, our partners respond with kindness, respect and in a reciprical manner. They give as we give. We serve their needs and they respond in kind. Eventually, the idea of keeping score becomes lost and we no longer care who picked up the check last!

    So it is with our spirit allies, our Goddesses,( and Gods) our Totem Spirits, our Ancestral Kin, just as it is with our dear friends and lovers.

    Well written post Joanna.

    Bless All Beings/Plant it Forward/Pray With a Good Fire,
    Shawneen

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